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Yet even more drama... [Mar. 23rd, 2008|04:00 pm]
Stephan
We've had more rain in Sydney over the last two days and the temperature has gone down. So too has the pain in my shoulder, but I'm no less anxious to meet with the Orthapaedic Surgeon and find out what they can do.

That's the good news, the bad news is that some more trouble has flaired up with my family and events could turn very ugly. These are legal matters so I cannot go into any details, and I don't know how long this process will take or if it will ever fully end.

(I MUST have been adopted...)
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[User Picture]From: alaskawolf
2008-03-23 04:47 pm (UTC)
rain can be a pain. i hope things go better for you soon
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[User Picture]From: thefoxaroo
2008-03-23 11:15 pm (UTC)
Rain in this part of the world is a GOOD thing! The temperature usually comes down and we stand less chance of dying of thirst. ;)
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[User Picture]From: sleepyjohn00
2008-03-25 12:10 am (UTC)
I think I remember a lot of postings about drought in Australia. I hope this is part of a better weather cycle.
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[User Picture]From: thefoxaroo
2008-03-25 01:14 am (UTC)
It's allowed Sydney to narrowly avert a dire situation (I can only hope that the government has woken up to the fact and not taken this too lightly).

Other parts of the country have fared differently. Poor old Batty in Dubbo hasn't received much of the rain we've had here, whilst areas of the state of Queensland have been flooded.
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[User Picture]From: deckardcanine
2008-03-23 06:24 pm (UTC)
If you weren't adopted, maybe you're at the next stage of evolution. Either way, I feel for ya.
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[User Picture]From: thefoxaroo
2008-03-23 11:17 pm (UTC)
*Snerk!* I'll have to remember that one. Maybe that's why my siblings behave like parasites; they're a lower order of animal.

Thanks! :)
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[User Picture]From: dhlawrence
2008-03-23 10:18 pm (UTC)
Family arguments are always uglier than any other kind. Case in point: my grandmother and her sisters are still arguing, even though they're in their 70s. The biggest argument started when they were dividing their mother's (my great-grandmother's) estate--while she was still alive!

Hope you don't get too much blood on you...
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[User Picture]From: thefoxaroo
2008-03-23 11:27 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I've always wished I could sit back and watch the idiots in my family tear each other apart, but in the past they've usualy gone for the softer target - me.

I did enjoy one phase of calm respite. When I first moved out of home. My three siblings had been joking and chortling that everything would be wonderful when there was one person less in the house, and yet to the surprise of even myself they tore into each other with heated arguments that surpassed even what had taken place when I was present. It was as if they had become addicted to starting fights and didn't know how to quit...

...and unfortunately they still haven't learned.
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[User Picture]From: dhlawrence
2008-03-23 11:56 pm (UTC)
If you can avoid the fight, is it possible for you to just not answer the phone, or can you not avoid it?
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[User Picture]From: thefoxaroo
2008-03-24 04:05 am (UTC)
Legal battles. I have two choices:

1) Get caught in the crossfire
2) Chose one side and hope that side wins

As for my phone, only a very small number of my family are supposed to know the number... but I don't doubt that it would have been leaked outward.
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[User Picture]From: sleepyjohn00
2008-03-25 12:14 am (UTC)
Exactly right. If fighting is all they've ever done, that's all they know how to do. It takes someone who wants change, to deliberately break the cycle. And that person is usually berated and belittled for daring to suggest that this long-accustomed way of life could or should be different.

It's a lonely place to be.
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[User Picture]From: thefoxaroo
2008-03-25 01:17 am (UTC)
That almost sounds like you've had some experience in this field? ;)
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[User Picture]From: sleepyjohn00
2008-03-26 02:06 pm (UTC)
I've paddled that boat a time or two, and I've seen it happen to a lot of other people. Often, people say that they want to stop fighting, but they're too afraid of being perceived as weak to do anything about it. It can take more guts to stop a fight than it did to start.
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[User Picture]From: thefoxaroo
2008-03-26 08:15 pm (UTC)
I wish we had someone in my family who wanted to stop the fighting. The aggression just filters down from the most dominant bullies down to the neutrals. We have an alpha male and an alpha female; my (alleged) biological father and my 1st sister respectively.

Sheesh! It *IS* just like a mob of kangaroos after all. No wonder I identify with the species so much.
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[User Picture]From: sleepyjohn00
2008-03-27 12:00 am (UTC)
You know, if you look at it like an animal family, there are some pretty basic training tricks you can do to reward positive behaviour when you see it. Nothing as blatant as doggie treats, but some praise when you see something you *do* like might start something. Pity you can't use shock collars ;)

I read a review a week or two ago of a book by a woman who used that kind of behavioral training on her husband, it worked pretty well until he figured out what she was doing!
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[User Picture]From: thefoxaroo
2008-03-27 12:23 am (UTC)
Any involvement with my family generaly proves hazardous to my health or wealth, LITERALLY! If the matters concerned weren't legal I'd avoid them altogether. I haven't spoken to my 2nd sister in 7 years, my first sister in about 10 years and my father since 1996. As mentioned in an earlier post, my Brother visited me a few months ago and one of my VHS cassettes hasn't been seen since.

Most of my family are too insidious and deceitful, which is difficult to guard against. There are very few that I trust. When any of the others are nearby I have to keep my eyes and my ears open like a fox. Little wonder I have difficulty learning to trust other people.

(Fox... and Roo... I'm seeing a correlation here...)
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[User Picture]From: marmoe
2008-03-24 04:45 pm (UTC)
You can still hope that you got the other set of chromosomes from your parents. [roll eyes] Sorry to hear about the trouble you are in.
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[User Picture]From: thefoxaroo
2008-03-24 08:05 pm (UTC)
Thanks Marmoe.

My behaviour is nothing like theirs, and I don't look anything like my father so that's certainly evidence along the lines that I didn't inherit much from them.
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